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Build your Self-Esteem - A starter guide to Self-Improvement

"Imagine yourself as a Dart Board"

By : Kapriz

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may consider as a starter guide to self-improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become darts at one stage or another. These darts will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy or get the best of you. So which darts should you avoid?

Dart #1: Negative Work Environment

Beware of the “dog eats dog” theory where everyone is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch or dinner and stay up late. Most of the time you work too much without getting other people involved. Stay out of this; it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere, but remembers to keep it healthy.

Dart #2: Other People’s Behaviour

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronisers, sniffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self-improvement scheme.

Dart #3: Changing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for a while, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart #4: Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart #5: Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of the worst situations.

Dart #6: Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioural traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you - “George, you may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve your self.”

In life, it’s hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armours to use, and pick those that are bulletproof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing bulletproof armour ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change that comes from within. Voluntarily. Armour or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behaviour and our way of thinking.

Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a bush fire from inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self-esteem brings about self-improvement, true assessment and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self-esteem, your starter guide to self-improvement.


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