Your Life: Change Your Point of View
"In life, you are always filled with choices"
By : Kapriz
"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one
sees the stars.” - Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts
If you’ve got second place in a writing contest, will you jump in joy and push for better results the next time, or
will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?
In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life
or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and have a challenging and fulfilling life.
So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?
Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and
political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.
On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects
middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no
longer a middle-aged homemaker’s disorder but is affecting teen-agers as well.
Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:
Optimists expect the best
The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and
undermine everything they do, are their own fault.
Optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their
misfortune - it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback - that its causes are
confined to this one case.
Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other
words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are
unfazed by a bad situation; they perceive it as a challenge and try harder.
They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience
misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”
Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden
tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of
People respond positively to optimists
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or
manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and
influence those they are with.
Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while
those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavourably.
In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.
When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher
Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are
less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by
avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.
Optimists persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a
step closer to that goal or elusive dream.
Optimists are healthier and live longer
Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the
body's ability to fight disease.
Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of
middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.
So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavours? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to
hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting
back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-coloured glasses and see life on the
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